Will I Have a Bad Child Because I Was Bad With My Mother?

Question:

Assalam alaykum,

I am a 14 year old young lady who has given my mom a hard time. I was simply exceptionally coldblooded to her. She has pardoned me each time and we've proceeded onward, notwithstanding, she said the one thing that will stay always is the way that Allah will give me a kid simply like myself. How might I settle this?

Reply:

Wa alaykum salam

May Allah compensate you for your inquiry.

Compliance to one's folks is a commitment second to faith in Allah and is underscored in the grand Quran and in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallaLlahu alayhi wasallam.

What's more, your Lord has announced that you not adore aside from Him, and to guardians, great treatment. [Isra: 23]

The Prophet sallaLlahu alayhi wasallam stated, "The joy of your ruler lies in the delight of your folks." [Ibn Hibban]

Be appreciative to Allah that you have recognized and comprehended the colossal position a parent holds at this youthful age. Ask of Him that He keeps managing you, empowering you to demonstrate benevolence to your mom and that He gives you numerous times of chance to respect and regard her.

The worry you have raised radiates from two conventions:

Wahb ibn munabbih related that Allah said to Nabi Musa alayhi al-Salam, "Respect and regard your folks, for the person who does as such, I will drag out his life and blessing him a kid who comparatively respects and regard him. Whoever defies his folks, I will abbreviate his life and give him a tyke that resists him." [al-Targib wa al-Tarhib by al-Asbahani]

Abu Hurayrah radiyaLlahu anhu portrays that the Messenger sallaLlahu alayhi wasallam stated, "Show regard to your folks and your youngsters will indicate regard to you." [al-Mu'jam al-Kabir]

These reports serve basically as a reprimand, urging one to demonstrate regard, thoughtfulness and respect to one's folks. Furthermore, despite the fact that they seem, by all accounts, to be general, the legitimate adage has it that there is no broad content aside from that it might be qualified. The truth bears declaration to this reality. Numerous a times, a parent may have been rebellious, yet Allah favors him or her with devout posterity; and numerous a times a parent may have been loyal, yet Allah tests him or her with defiant youngsters.

You have, alhamdu liLlah, swung to Allah in true contrition and you have additionally approached your mom to pardon you for your conduct — and she has excused you. You ought to have high expectation that Allah has excused and deleted the transgression and its potential results.

Our recommendation to you is that you are as yet youthful. Your mom is still with you. Take advantage of this opportunity. Now and again, when your mom might be pointlessly cruel or maybe discourteous, advise yourself that Jannah lies underneath her feet, and that she is the best way to Jannah. Continually approach her to excuse you for any wrong you may have done and dependably approach of her to appeal to God for you. The supplication of a mother resembles a bolt that does not miss its objective. On the off chance that there is any deposit of hurt inside her, Allah will, inshaAllah, expel if from her heart.

May Allah be with you

Wassalam

[Shaykh] Abdurragmaan Khan

Shaykh Abdurragmaan got ijazah 'ammah from different illuminators, including yet not confined to: Habib Umar ibn Hafiz—an identity who influenced him enormously and who has changed his association with Allah, Maulana Yusuf Karaan—the previous Mufti of Cape Town; Habib 'Ali al-Mashhur—the present Mufti of Tarim; Habib 'Umar al-Jaylani—the Shafi'i Mufti of Makkah; Sayyid Ahmad receptacle Abi Bakr al-Hibshi; Habib Kadhim as-Saqqaf; Shaykh Mahmud Sa'id Mamduh; Maulana Abdul Hafiz al-Makki; Shaykh Ala promotion Din al-Afghani; Maulana Fazlur Rahman al-Azami and Shaykh Yahya al-Gawthani among others.
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